Wednesday, March 20, 2013

Oprah's View on MEN!!!

SHE COULD NOT HAVE SAID IT ANY BETTER!!! HEAR WHAT OPRAH WINFREY HAD TO SAY ABOUT MEN :
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
...
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are. Even if he has has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending... Compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE
individuals. Look for someone complimentary...
not supplementary.

Dating is fun... Even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes... When a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him ~ he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful: Dr. Phil says... You should know that: You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one. They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one. Ladies take care of your own hearts... ❤
HEAR WHAT OPRAH WINFREY HAD TO
SAY ABOUT MEN :

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. 
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. 

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.  He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything.  He will use it against you later. 

You cannot change a man's behavior.  Change comes from within.  Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are.  Even if he has has more education or in a better job.  Do not make him into a quasi-god.  He is a man, nothing more nothing less. 

Never let a man define who you are.  Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.  A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending... Compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships.  There is nothing cute about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE
individuals. Look for someone complimentary...
not supplementary. 

Dating is fun... Even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.  Make him miss you sometimes... When a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him ~ he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.  Keep him in your radar but get to know others. 

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful: Dr. Phil says... You should know that: You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one. They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one. Ladies take care of your own hearts... ❤

Monday, March 11, 2013

Red Lips Made Easy 
Have you ever thought to yourself, “I wish I could be daring enough to wear that Beyoncé red lip color”? Or maybe you thought, “My skin is too dark to wear that red lipstick”.  You are wrong! Red lip color can be worn by all skins types including women of color. Red lipstick is an expression of a bold and vibrant personality. No matter how shy you may seem, everyone has a fire side to them, so why not express it through a fierce red lip color. Let’s be clear, this is not rocket science, but for those of you who feel like it is, here are some helpful tips to help you find the perfect red lip color for you.
 
The first step to take on your journey to fierceness is to pick out at least 4 red lip colors that really speak to you. Because red is such a bright color, try
your red lipstick on with at least foundation, neutral blush, and soft eyes because it can make you appear washed out if you don’t. On the eyes, try the 50’s cat eye look. It is soft and classy, yet extremely glamorous. However, if you are worried about turning your cat eye into a pound puppy eye, NO WORRIES! Simple soft earth tones or metallic gold tones will work just as well. Next jump right in! Apply the color with confidence that you WILL be fierce.    


There are many different types of lipstick textures. For instance, matte lip color is now the new trend. It is chic, neat and deflects the light. Matte lipstick can often be longer-wearing than shinier types of lipstick as well. If you are just getting used to red lipstick this would be the way to go. Even though it is soft, it still gives you the effect that you want from that vibrant color! My favorite matte red lip color is MAC’s Ruby Woo. Matte lipsticks are not recommended on thinner or wrinkled lips, because matte does not contain as many moisturizing ingredients. 

Another type of lipstick is crème. Crème contains a more oils and moisturizers than the matte texture lipstick.  It can make your lips look juicy and luscious! When using a crème lipstick, use a lip liner before applying the lip color. This will help to prevent your lipstick from bleeding into the rest of 
your makeup. Also, if you are hitting the town and want to drink out of a glass/cup while wearing your crème lip color, one trick is to lick the rim before you take a sip and your lipstick will not stick or smear on the glass.  *Keep it discrete though… You don’t want everybody knowing how you stay so flawless through the night.   


If you are a woman that does not have a lot of time to fix and reapply, choose a long-lasting lip color. It will last on your lips up to 6 hours, even if you eat, drink, or….kiss! In general this type of lipstick is dry, so you can use it with a moisturizer. I love using the Beyoncé Red by L'Oreal Paris Infallible Never Fail Stars Collection Lipcolour. Also the great thing about this type of lipstick is that you never have to worry about it sticking to your teeth.          
Look at red lipstick as an accessory not only as makeup. Your red lips should be the focal point of your look. Because it is such a bold color it can handle that type of pressure. So find one that stands out to you. Remember - Be bold! Be daring!                                                                             



Do’s and Don’ts: DON’T wear red lipstick with a lot of other bright and vibrant colors. Remember make your lips the focal point of your look. Wear more neutrals or metallic colors. Patterns are fine, but be mindful of the colors that are in the patterns. 
DO wear red lipstick with a fun sequin look! This look is definitely a growing trend. But remember, if you wear something as bold and daring as this, be sure to go easy on the accessories!  


Photographer: Evie Bernard; Models: Keyona Ham, Kia Myles, Sharlesha Domonique, Amina Leila, and Jennifer Magee; Makeup: Only By Evie; Retoucher: Kier Rossi